Love
Navigating intimacy in a shifting world: decoding the complex chemistry and psychology of human connection. A comprehensive exploration of love in all its forms.
Everyday Love
When dating rewards indifference, nobody falls in love
Hookup culture told everyone to act unbothered. Bill-splitting became a political statement. Dating profiles turned into shopping lists. An Evie Magazine essay argues that modern romance lost its warmth because we traded vulnerability for performance, and both men and women came out emptier.
videoBeyond fairy-tale love: reclaiming realistic expectations in relationships
Why the end of the Disney glow can be the beginning of something deeper. The Myth we all inherited From…
videoLove your enemies: a buddhist guide to defeating anger, ego, and self-loathing
In their collaborative work Love Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier, Robert…
We create a false self in early life to meet external expectations and cope with childhood experiences – James Hollis
James Hollis explores the psychological and spiritual upheaval of midlife as a necessary and meaningful rite of passage. Drawing from…
Couples who never post about their love are happiest in UK survey
In a 2021 Shotkit survey of 2,000 UK adults, 73% of couples who never post about their relationship online rated it happy, against 32% of those posting three or more times a week. The poll was not peer reviewed.
Making It Last
videoUnderstanding the brain helps love last, says neurobiologist Lucy Vincent
Lucy Vincent is a neurobiologist with a rich, eclectic career in research, known for her popular science books on the…
The Peak-End Rule explains why we judge relationships by their most intense moments and how they end
The peak-end rule of love explains why we judge relationships by their most intense moments and how they end, ignoring the average of our daily life together.
The scarcity principle explains why we chase unavailable partners and how an abundance mindset builds real love
The scarcity principle traps us in chasing distant partners. Shift to an abundance mindset to stop settling and find secure, real love.
Invisible load in couples shows up as managing, remembering and emotional care
The invisible load is the managing, remembering and emotional care that keeps a household running. A 2024 study found mothers carry about 73% of it, with more stress and lower relationship satisfaction.
Pausing five seconds before reacting can prevent most relationship fights
Recent psychological research demonstrates that taking just a five-second pause during tense moments in a relationship can significantly reduce aggression…
Sustained romantic love rests on four relationship commitments
A peer-reviewed empirical paper in Marriage & Family Review compares people who report staying in love with people who say they have fallen out of love. This article summarizes the four relationship commitments highlighted in that work and in a Psychology Today explainer. It does not predict outcomes for any one couple.
Research Findings
Are men less attracted to intelligent women?
2015 study: men are slightly less attracted to intelligent women, despite what they say Six experiments by Park and colleagues…
Childhood trauma linked to smaller hippocampus after romantic breakups
A new study links romantic breakups to smaller hippocampal brain volume in adults with childhood trauma, showing how early adversity heightens stress sensitivity.
The five stages of long-term relationships and how to navigate them
The article explains the five key phases in romantic relationships, starting from the initial attraction and infatuation to building deeper…
Whether being single suits you depends on your attachment style
Happiness in long-term singlehood is significantly influenced by an individual’s attachment style. Those with secure attachment are more likely to…
Couples can recover from cheating, and secret affairs fare worst
In couple therapy studies, many couples recovered after an affair and became as satisfied as other couples. Secret affairs ended in divorce most often, and people who cheated once were more likely to cheat again.
Love management : tech professionals apply startup tactics to relationships
Some tech professionals approach dating like they manage a startup, emphasizing goals, optimization, and strategic planning. While this method can…