Love
Navigating intimacy in a shifting world: decoding the complex chemistry and psychology of human connection. A comprehensive exploration of love in all its forms.
Level 1
When dating rewards indifference, nobody falls in love
Hookup culture told everyone to act unbothered. Bill-splitting became a political statement. Dating profiles turned into shopping lists. An Evie Magazine essay argues that modern romance lost its warmth because we traded vulnerability for performance, and both men and women came out emptier.
videoBeyond fairy-tale love: reclaiming realistic expectations in relationships
Why the end of the Disney glow can be the beginning of something deeper. The Myth we all inherited From…
videoLove your enemies: a buddhist guide to defeating anger, ego, and self-loathing
In their collaborative work Love Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier, Robert…
We create a false self in early life to meet external expectations and cope with childhood experiences – James Hollis
James Hollis explores the psychological and spiritual upheaval of midlife as a necessary and meaningful rite of passage. Drawing from…
Couples who post less about their love on social media are happier
A survey by the photography site Shotkit asked people in relationships how often they share “couple content” on social media…
Level 2
Invisible load in relationships: 3 signs you carry too much
Learn the 3 signs of invisible load in relationships: managing tasks, tracking details, and carrying emotional weight. Discover how to share the mental burden.
videoUnderstanding the brain helps love last, says neurobiologist Lucy Vincent
Lucy Vincent is a neurobiologist with a rich, eclectic career in research, known for her popular science books on the…
The Peak-End Rule explains why we judge relationships by their most intense moments and how they end
The peak-end rule of love explains why we judge relationships by their most intense moments and how they end, ignoring the average of our daily life together.
The scarcity principle explains why we chase unavailable partners and how an abundance mindset builds real love
The scarcity principle traps us in chasing distant partners. Shift to an abundance mindset to stop settling and find secure, real love.
Pausing five seconds before reacting can prevent most relationship fights
Recent psychological research demonstrates that taking just a five-second pause during tense moments in a relationship can significantly reduce aggression…
Sustained romantic love rests on four relationship commitments
A peer-reviewed empirical paper in Marriage & Family Review compares people who report staying in love with people who say they have fallen out of love. This article summarizes the four relationship commitments highlighted in that work and in a Psychology Today explainer. It does not predict outcomes for any one couple.
Level 3
Sarcasm can undermine relationship warmth, research finds
What sounds witty in the moment often sounds wounding to the person you care about most. Sarcasm relies on a…
videoHarmony is a lifelike robot designed to be a romantic companion
The launch of Harmony, the world’s first talking sex robot, introduces new ethical and social dilemmas. While designed to simulate…
How relationship happiness changes from early love to old age
Relationship satisfaction tends to drop from age 20 to 40, hits its lowest point at 40, then goes up until about age 65. After that, it stays pretty stable.
Relationship satisfaction generally goes down in the early years of a relationship, especially in the first 10 years. Then it goes up until about 20 years, and then it might go down again.
The presence of children is associated with a lower mean level of relationship satisfaction.
Cheating risk often rises near year seven of marriage, then drops for women and can rise later for men
The popular idea of a 7 year itch has some support in research. Surveys suggest that both the wish to…
ChadGPT: women are using AI chatbots as virtual boyfriends
AI technology can replace some positive aspects of a relationship: chatting, generating love songs, recommending restaurants. AI can replicate some aspects but face challenges in areas like social media and personal connections.
Men have always preferred thin women
Narrow waist is consistently described as beautiful in British literature, ancient Indian and Chinese literature. Despite cultural differences, a thin waist is a universal and timeless symbol of feminine beauty, reflecting the evolutionary association between health and attractiveness.