Love
Navigating intimacy in a shifting world: decoding the complex chemistry and psychology of human connection. A comprehensive exploration of love in all its forms.
Everyday Love
When dating rewards indifference, nobody falls in love
Hookup culture told everyone to act unbothered. Bill-splitting became a political statement. Dating profiles turned into shopping lists. An Evie Magazine essay argues that modern romance lost its warmth because we traded vulnerability for performance, and both men and women came out emptier.
videoBeyond fairy-tale love: reclaiming realistic expectations in relationships
Why the end of the Disney glow can be the beginning of something deeper. The Myth we all inherited From…
videoLove your enemies: a buddhist guide to defeating anger, ego, and self-loathing
In their collaborative work Love Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier, Robert…
We create a false self in early life to meet external expectations and cope with childhood experiences – James Hollis
James Hollis explores the psychological and spiritual upheaval of midlife as a necessary and meaningful rite of passage. Drawing from…
Couples who never post about their love are happiest in UK survey
In a 2021 Shotkit survey of 2,000 UK adults, 73% of couples who never post about their relationship online rated it happy, against 32% of those posting three or more times a week. The poll was not peer reviewed.
Making It Last
Ten habits that reliably make people happier, with one that stands above the rest
Say things now to people you care about.
Spend time with parents and children.
Enjoy daily pleasures instead of waiting for something that may happen later.
Work in a job you love.
Choose your partner carefully.
Losing a mate lowers oxytocin and makes voles act depressed
Prairie voles separated from a bonded mate act depressed because a stress signal cuts brain oxytocin, a 2017 review by Bosch and Young reports. Oxytocin given into a reward area of the brain prevented this depression-like behavior.
Heidi Priebe says the love of your life can end and still matter
Thought Catalog writer Heidi Priebe argues that losing the love of your life does not cancel its meaning. Studies on beliefs about love and on growth after breakups support parts of that view.
Brides with 10 or more partners had a 33% five-year divorce rate
In a 2016 analysis of U.S. survey data, women who married in the 2000s after 10 or more sex partners had a 33% five-year divorce rate, against 6% for virgin brides.
Premarital cohabitation and divorce in women: number of partners is key
Research on premarital cohabitation and divorce finds the risk is not from living with a future spouse, but from having multiple premarital partners.
Research Findings
Are men less attracted to intelligent women?
2015 study: men are slightly less attracted to intelligent women, despite what they say Six experiments by Park and colleagues…
Childhood trauma linked to smaller hippocampus after romantic breakups
A new study links romantic breakups to smaller hippocampal brain volume in adults with childhood trauma, showing how early adversity heightens stress sensitivity.
The five stages of long-term relationships and how to navigate them
The article explains the five key phases in romantic relationships, starting from the initial attraction and infatuation to building deeper…
Whether being single suits you depends on your attachment style
Happiness in long-term singlehood is significantly influenced by an individual’s attachment style. Those with secure attachment are more likely to…
Couples can recover from cheating, and secret affairs fare worst
In couple therapy studies, many couples recovered after an affair and became as satisfied as other couples. Secret affairs ended in divorce most often, and people who cheated once were more likely to cheat again.
Love management : tech professionals apply startup tactics to relationships
Some tech professionals approach dating like they manage a startup, emphasizing goals, optimization, and strategic planning. While this method can…