Invisible load in relationships: 3 signs you carry too much
Learn the 3 signs of invisible load in relationships: managing tasks, tracking details, and carrying emotional weight. Discover how to share the mental burden.
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Are men less attracted to intelligent women?
2015 study: men are slightly less attracted to intelligent women, despite what they say Six experiments by Park and colleagues (2015) examined men’s stated versus observed attraction to intelligent women. When evaluating hypothetical or physically distant profiles, men reported preferring…
Understanding the brain helps love last, says neurobiologist Lucy Vincent
Lucy Vincent is a neurobiologist with a rich, eclectic career in research, known for her popular science books on the plasticity of the brain and the biology of human attachment. Her newest book, Le cerveau des amoureux (“The Lovers’ Brain“,…
Beyond fairy-tale love: reclaiming realistic expectations in relationships
Why the end of the Disney glow can be the beginning of something deeper. The Myth We All Inherited From childhood on, many of us soaked in the same storyline: love should feel magical – non-stop butterflies, spontaneous grand gestures,…
Love your enemies: a buddhist guide to defeating anger, ego, and self-loathing
In their collaborative work Love Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier, Robert Thurman and Sharon Salzberg delve into the profound concept of “enemies,” both external and internal, that obstruct our path to…
We create a false self in early life to meet external expectations and cope with childhood experiences – James Hollis
James Hollis explores the psychological and spiritual upheaval of midlife as a necessary and meaningful rite of passage. Drawing from Jungian concepts, he introduces the idea of the “provisional personality” – a false self formed in childhood to meet external…
Childhood trauma linked to smaller hippocampus after romantic breakups
A new study links romantic breakups to smaller hippocampal brain volume in adults with childhood trauma, showing how early adversity heightens stress sensitivity.
The Peak-End Rule explains why we judge relationships by their most intense moments and how they end
The peak-end rule of love explains why we judge relationships by their most intense moments and how they end, ignoring the average of our daily life together.
The scarcity principle explains why we chase unavailable partners and how an abundance mindset builds real love
The scarcity principle traps us in chasing distant partners. Shift to an abundance mindset to stop settling and find secure, real love.