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2015 study: men are slightly less attracted to intelligent women, despite what they say
Six experiments by Park and colleagues (2015) examined men’s stated versus observed attraction to intelligent women. When evaluating hypothetical or physically distant profiles, men reported preferring partners who were smarter than themselves.
However, in live, face-to-face interactions, where a female confederate had just outperformed them on a cognitive task, men showed a decrease in romantic interest.
In Study 3a, those men also rated their own masculinity lower when the woman remained nearby (F(1, 67) = 8.02, p = .006), and a mediation analysis indicated that this temporary dip in self-rated masculinity partially explained the reduced attraction. The decrease in attraction corresponded to an average drop of 0.5 points on a 7-point scale.
In short, when a man is seated face-to-face with a woman who just outperformed him on a test, he tends to reduce his romantic interest in her.
(Psychological) Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder: Effects of Psychological Distance and Relative Intelligence on Men’s Attraction to Women – 2015
Six lab and field experiments (total N ≈ 650) showed that American male undergraduates admired highly intelligent women in the abstract, but when a woman sitting next to them outscored them on a reasoning test they reported slightly lower romantic interest and sat farther away. A follow-up mediation in Study 3a linked the attraction dip (-0.5 points on a 7-point scale) to a brief fall in self-rated masculinity (F = 8.02, p = .006).
2022-2023 study: women’s higher status helps, unless they surpass their partner
Vink and colleagues surveyed 314 Dutch women and followed 112 of them for 14 days. Climbing the status ladder (income, education, occupational prestige) generally improved relationship quality and women’s well-being. Yet the pattern reversed when a woman’s status clearly exceeded her male partner’s: relationship satisfaction fell, and traditional-minded women considered cutting work hours, while egalitarian women experienced guilt instead.
All Is Nice and Well Unless She Outshines Him: Higher Social Status Benefits Women’s Well-Being and Relationship Quality but Not if They Surpass Their Male Partner – 2022
Vink and colleagues combined a cross-sectional survey (N = 314 Dutch women) with a 14-day diary (N = 112). Greater education, income and occupational prestige generally boosted women’s happiness and couple quality. Yet among women whose status clearly exceeded their male partner’s, satisfaction reversed: traditional-minded women considered cutting work hours, while egalitarian women felt guilt.
2024 study: speed-dating shows little match between stated and revealed preferences
Zhao, Sidari, Lee and Zietsch ran a high-powered speed-dating event with 1 145 singles and followed it with computer simulations. Only 4 of 9 traits, including intelligence, showed any link between what participants claimed to want and whom they actually liked, and those links were tiny. Further statistical tests suggested most apparent correspondences were artefacts of analysing one trait at a time when attraction is multivariate.
The authors conclude that detecting real trait-by-trait matching is inherently difficult; people’s lists of “must-haves” rarely predict who excites them in person.
Speed-Dating and Simulation Data Explain the Discrepancy Between Stated and Revealed Mate Preferences – 2024
Zhao, Sidari, Lee and Zietsch ran 171 speed-dating sessions with 1 145 adults, then modelled the design in computer simulations. Only 4 of 9 traits – including intelligence – showed any detectable link between what participants said they wanted and whom they actually liked, and those links were tiny. Simulations showed that when attraction depends on many traits at once, single-trait correlations are expected to be near zero. The paper concludes that lists of “ideal qualities” are poor predictors of real-life chemistry.
2024 study: Men prefer attractive women over intelligent women in online swipes
Witmer, Rosenbusch and Meral used conjoint analysis on 5 340 swipe decisions from 445 German dating-app users. Improving a profile photo by one standard deviation raised match odds by about 20 %, whereas an equivalent boost to perceived intelligence increased matches by only 2%. Intelligence finished fifth – behind attractiveness, height, job prestige and bio quality.
The Relative Importance of Looks, Height, Job, Bio, Intelligence, and Homophily in Online Dating: A Conjoint Analysis – 2024 (online-first 2024, print 2025)
Witmer, Rosenbusch and Meral analysed 5 340 swipe choices made by 445 dating-app users in Germany. Varying six profile attributes independently, they found that improving photo attractiveness by one standard deviation raised match odds by ≈20%, whereas an equivalent boost to perceived intelligence raised matches by only ≈2%. Intelligence ranked fifth – well behind looks, height, job prestige and profile-text quality. The authors conclude that rapid, image-driven contexts give intelligence little room to influence first-pass attraction
